分了手就是分手，別想著回頭

我不會和前男友翻嗒，因為兩人分手必有原因，並不會因為分了手,對方性格就會改變，品性難移聽過嗎？ 

老人說的話，或古人說的話，或一些成語都必須要拿來做為人生的借鑑。其中好馬不吃回頭草，就是充份的說明。

我和舊男友和好過一次，結果是更痛苦，更互相厭惡大家，最終結局，連那一點點美好的回憶都不存在。


我也經常問那些“破鏡重圓”的那些人的體會，他們都同意我的見解，分了手，就是分手，別再報著復合的幻想，兩人再和好，一定不像從前那樣，互相內心有成見，不信任等等，遲早還會再分手。

有位朋友來信分享了他和他太太的事，他太太曾經和另一個俊男跑了，他當時又哭又跪求他太太別走，她當時非常狠絕，一心一意就是要和那男人走，還說了很多傷他自尊心的話。

她走了後，他痛不欲生，經常寫信給我，問我意見．．．．過了半年，她打電話回家，說想復合，因為她和那俊男一起，相處的不開心，俊男總發脾氣，對她又不關心，她很後悔，想再和好。

他一直很愛她，便原諒了她，她回到家，兩人又像往日那樣，表面好像風平浪靜，不過兩人的內心，都隨著那次的分手，產生了漣漪，她總是投訴一些他的一些小過錯，而他總是不能再完全信任她．．．兩人親熱時，他卻得不到快感，想起她和其他男人的事，他便內心不舒服．．．．看看他的來信怎麼說：

I can honestly tell you from recent difficult personal experience...that although I believe that I love her, especially while remembering the good, close, and loving times obviously shared together...things in reality are not the same now. I thought that I would be able to keep loving my wife the same as before she cheated on me and left me for another man. I thought that I could forgive and basically forget. However, I have learned that I was wrong to some degree at least. I have found that I have a great difficulty trusting her and loving her the way that I need to be loving someone who is close to me. My love has changed. I do not know for sure whether or not it can be rebuilt to the point that our relationship will survive and be good...or not. I am sure it would not be the same as before at all. Before...we never had a single argument. Now, since she returned, we have had many. It is stressful, and I don't think got back together and tried again it's a good idea...things would only be worse than you would imagine. It will not work.......